To My friends on Blogsville

To the world, love is a feeling,That dictates, destroys, then scatters,
But to me, it is a state of mind,
It reminds me that nothing else matters.
To the world, love is a fairy tale,
That lives happily Never after,
But to me,It is a single moment in time,once realizedLasts forever - and then after.
To the world, you may be just one person,Insignificant and small,
But to me,
you Are the world,
My complement, my new found friend
People that I met in blogsville I dedicate this to you.
God bless
Mwah have a lovely Christmas and looking forward to reading about you in the new year.

The chase continues

Thanks y’all for advising me on my last blog but it looks like drama has only just started.

E and I dated for a year plus and we had been chatting even before we met and when we did, we just took off from where we were at. I got to meet the family a few months after we started dating and I thought I finally met my Mr Right. He was loving, very caring, would lay the bed, clean the house, even iron my clothes. We both loved cooking so he will sometime tell me to relax whilst he cooked and likewise but not knowing that this was a façade.

Our problems started when he moved into his own flat and his brothers were living with him. He started to cheat and I knew but no evidence, he explained to me that he was naturally a flirt and that I should not read meaning into his calls or texts. Our problem started on his birthday as that was the concrete evidence I had against him, as usual him being a guy persuaded me and said there was nothing to it just friendship.

So he travelled a lot and one of the trips he took he obviously met other girls but at this time I had got fed up and the fights got heated and was lasting for weeks. If we had a single quarrel, his family will call both here and abroad especially his parents. I must admit that I hung in there because I did not want to disappoint his parents. So he asked me one day to call his pastor back home and when I spoke to the man, he said we should fast together and he advised me to leave him. The man said that I would never know a day of peace if I was to marry him but apparently the man did not tell his folks that as they kept saying that their son was repentant of his mess.

Anyway to cut a long story short, I told him that I was breaking up with him and this guy has refused to let go, he has emailed me on a continuous basis. I warned him off and I feel there is more to it, one of his friend advised me not to give in and accept him back, I have moved on but the guy refused to let go, all I hear is how he has been to more than 5 spiritualist and they have said am his wife. It has been more than 9 months, he still begs for mercy, he emailed me this today

Laughter, I have sd sorry for chances i never even knew was given, i kept on re assuring you at that time dat all was well.
there is nofink beyond redemption.

if given another opportunity, "'its only and idiot dat wud suffer for smefink and squander dat opportunity again" the reason i asked us to meet is for you to see what i have turned into..a living ghost of ma image, i have had time to fink, time to ponder, i have had too much time in ma hands to retrace where it all went wrong, i have tried reasoning with myself that everyfink wud be ok, but each day that passes has bn a constant reminder of our times together, vivid memories flash through my eyes like am seeing it happen, the 1st time we spoke,1st time we met,1st time we kissed and the 1st time we ever made luv.

Laughter , time is not a theme when it comes to the fink of the heart. i am sorry you felt i never treated you right, but dat was not the case cos u had always been ma top priority.

i am am asking you to find another place in ur heart to luv me again like u did, i will be everyfink you want in a man i promise.
I honestly wish i cud reach into you heart and let you know exactly hw i feel...baby you mean the world to me..and i am prepared to let all go just to be wif you..laughter pls i am sorry for hw the past went..the future is wat matters gime a chance again pls.


This is what I see or get on a daily basis and this is not love. I heard a rumour that he is in debt and the reason why he desperately wants to marry me is because am the only one that could pull him out of the debt. Can u just imagine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been aggresive, i have been nice but he keeps saying you are the only one i love, how can that be?

This is the dilemma I face my people. He has been threatened with the police, i have now taken a restarining order against him but he still emails with another name and from another email address. If this was love, he would not have messed up constantly and i cannot understand why his folks cannot let go either, they should have advised him to move on and that he would meet someone new but no the geezer and his people think am the perfect wife for him.

In Two Minds

Blogsville, a lot has been happening to me but I was shying away from discussing this on the web but now I think am about to go bonkers. A year plus ago I started to date a guy called E, we dated for about 13 months and out of those 13 months it was obviously sweeter and better in the beginning, around july last year, he rented a place because initially he was living with his cousin and girlfriend who later became his wife and so he moved and when he was moving, obviously I helped and assisted.

The saga then started because once he started to live alone, his freedom started and due to the fact that he lived in the north of England, I could only see him at the weekends. Then he started to two-time, three-time, quarter-time and what not but I had no concrete proof. His birthday last year was when I knew, he loves to flirt so I read no meaning to many of his phone calls but last year I knew because he left his phone at home and was so sure I was not going to go through the phone. I have come to realise that for me to have a longer life, I ignore going through a bloke’s phone because whilst am there drowning away in my misery the man would be there snoring away and he knew that but when I went through the phone and the voicemail I realise that ole boy was a proper player o. He had told the other chicks that he was going away to Dublin to see his brother that had a baby and he called the babes from the so called Dublin with private no and he had said he would spend his birthday night with her. So me I jejely put the phone back where I saw it, pretended like nothing had happened and was waiting to see how he was going to perform that trick.

Anyways to cut a long story short he was going to drop me off at home at that time, me I kunkun refused o, he was so angry but we ended up in his uncle’s house instead so that was the saga for a while o, we now started to fight non stop. He came to see my parents who did not like him, apparently they had gone to pray and they said he was not the one.

Anyways we broke up this year o around January time, he called me around my birthday time to give me gift which I stupidly collected and since then bobo has been chasing me he wants me back, his parents called non stop from 9ja saying they have gone to pray and that we are good together. I have changed my phone number, he calls me at work, turned up unexpectedly in my church and work, I have stopped going to that church, it has been more than 6months and he refused to give up. I told him I was pregnant for someone else, he said he will take the baby and raise it as his own. I don’t want to call the police but I am now so confused, his family members called me to beg on his behalf even as far as swearing on their children’s life that once we pray together whatever the problem is would go. I myself fasted and prayed and knew that he was not the will for my life.

Can anybody help me on what to do? I don’t want to get the police involved, yesterday he still called me and begged me that he would love me forever told him I am seeing somebody else, he said he would wait for me and if it does not work out with that person would I date him back. I said tohim he must be mad. Which kind hot yeye love this one be, love that was uncaring before now became hot love.

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp.

The Best Day Of My Life

Today, when I awoke, I suddenly realized that this is the best day of my life, ever! There were times when I wondered if I would make it to today; but I did! And because I did I'm going to celebrate!Today, I'm going to celebrate what an unbelievable life I have had so far: the accomplishments, the many blessings, and, yes, even the hardships because they have served to make me stronger.I will go through this day with my head held high, and a happy heart. I will marvel at God's seemingly simple gifts: the morning dew, the sun, the clouds, the trees, the flowers, the birds. Today, none of these miraculous creations will escape my notice.Today, I will share my excitement for life with other people. I'll make someone smile. I'll go out of my way to perform an unexpected act of kindness for someone I don't even know.Today, I'll give a sincere compliment to someone who seems down. I'll tell a child how special he is, and I'll tell someone I love just how deeply I care for them and how much they mean to me.Today is the day I quit worrying about what I don't have and start being grateful for all the wonderful things God has already given me.I'll remember that to worry is just a waste of time because my faith in God and his Divine Plan ensures everything will be just fine.And tonight, before I go to bed, I'll go outside and raise my eyes to the heavens. I will stand in awe at the beauty of the stars and the moon, and I will praise God for these magnificent treasures.As the day ends and I lay my head down on my pillow, I will thank the Almighty for the best day of my life. And I will sleep the sleep of a contented child, excited with expectation because know tomorrow is going to be the best day of my life, ever!

Shalom

Anger is not worth the price you pay for it

Transform it instead into positive results. Despair will only keep you stuck where you are.
Choose to exchange it for a good dose of inspiration.
Arrogance will cut you off from the world. Cast it away and replace it with generosity and enthusiasm.
Impatience only brings you mistakes and frustration. Let it go and let peaceful purpose take its place.
For every burden of your own creation, there is an alternative that will lift you up. When you feel yourself being dragged down by the attitude you have chosen, let that be a reminder to choose a more positive approach.
You are in control of the way you look at life. And the way you look at life surely and inevitably determines the way your life will be.
My piece for the day..

Today

Today is life-the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today. Get interested in something. Shake yourself awake. Develop a hobby. Let the winds of enthusiasm sweep through you. Live today with gusto.
Dale Carnegie
Remember happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think.

Wow, another week, another drama.

So much to talk about but will post on Friday night when am quite settled.

Freedom

I loved you yeah what the heck is the big deal,
I believed all that you said so what the heck is that new?
You thought yeah she is a gullible fool, what the heck am not the first and i won't be the last
You thought you were smart but you were actually dumb,
You felt that being a man made you the king of the world but you never knew you were the king of the greatest fool,
You trampled on my feelings, you thought well let me beat her black and blue and she would keep crawling back but what the heck, abused partners do the same,
But ol' boy u were the biggest fool,
all the time you gave me sob and sad stories about mama being in hospital i knew weren't true ,but made u feel like your lies were working,
All the times you attacked my confidence i let you because i was waiting for you to trip,
boy, u were not the best, u were a liar, a cheat and a rogue
Am happy that the little mouse that u felt could not talk was the one that threw ur sorry ass out on the street.
Keep telling people that am having an independence phase, carry on believeing that because boy i have moved on,
Please stop sending me flowers and making me have hay fever.
Omoboy, you were not the man, u were the sad sorry loser that i had pity on...
Read my lips, am not having u back and i will never have u back, keep on crying and begging till Jesus comes back, i will never take u back not to talk of revoking the divorce.

You were a silly area boy that i took pity on .

Am happy and i have moved on......

Stop bugging me........

Hmmmmmmmmmmmn

Help o, I have a this friend, who used to go to my old church and left when she moved home and since the borough is far from church she started going to a deliverance church, anyways she calls once in a while, anyway was returning back from a send forth party on Sunday o when my phone rang.
Conversation
Me: Hello Ebun
Ebun: O ga o Laughter, anyway call me back, me ni credit
Laughter: whatz up ore, could read the tension in the air or should i say unrest
Ebun: Laughter, everything fine o
Me: How are the bros o
Ebun; don't get me started o, the guy am seeing came over to my place 2wks ago and i said to him this one that u treat me and this relationship as 2nd wife, o ga o. She said he then said that well u r already in that group
Laughter: sho

Anyway to cut the conversation short, friend tells me that she has been dating bobo donkey for 18months and no sign of seriousness and that he said that he has a wife and children somewhere, na so becuz of that she no well. I then said to her Ebun, have you been to his house, she said no
No ke, I then tore into her i said you a child of convenant, a royal priesthood dating a guy for 18months and you don't know his house, is that how it is now? she said he pointed the house out to her but he has never invited her in, I then said to her, you know what? the truth is that you know that this guy is not free, how else would a man come, eat, drink and then go to promise land on you and then go back to wherever he crept out for without you not querying.
She said he called her back a week after to say he was joking when he saw how cold she was.

I understand the need for us to settle but not in the essence settle for less just for the sake of being called Mrs!!!! I was so mean because i was just tired of seeing men come together and call some women names like Mugu and co because they know we wan marry.

I said to her, i really don't blame him, i blame you, how can a guy in this day and age come and eat and then sleep with you without you entering his premises, she then go on to say her mum told her that a prophecy was said about her that she would marry a divorcee, i said well bobo donkey ain't no divorcee, and this is someone that is holy than thou.

I said take me for example the last person i dated begged me for 6months for me to come back but his attitude stunk when we were together and all that promises of change never got to me, she said ehn he promised her marriage, i said pleeeeeeeeeeeeease wake up and smell the coffee which yeye marriage be that, 18months, a child would have started talking by now.

I told her without mincing my words, you better let the bobo go and stop focusing on marriage and focus on yourself and ask questions about why did I pretty babe like me allow a man to enjoy my body without checking things out, she said she will call me back in 5minutes, errm it is now wednesday no calls.

I was so mad with her, why is that we women take a lot of rubbbish and even allow ourselves to be treated as the rubbish house without allowing her brain to kick in, yeah i was harsh but i did not want to sugar-coat the issue. Am tired of chasing for something when the bible categorically says he that findeth a wife, not she, yeah, yeah i know some women do it but abeg i no fit.

Don't get me wrong, i want to marry but not because of marriage come allow guy free rein over my body whilst dangling wedding ring infront of me like carrot abeg carry go.
Some girls make it easy for gals but why is that we good girls are the one that suffer the most.

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp o.

I Still Know Who She Is

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On examining it I saw it was well healed, so I talked toone of the doctors and got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound. While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while! As she is a victim of Alzheimer's disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now. I was surprised and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't knowwho you are?' He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me but I still know who she is.' I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life.

True love is neither physical nor romantic'

A little something

The Poem I knelt to pray but not for long, I had too much to do. I had to hurry and get to work For bills would soon be due. So I knelt and said a hurried prayer, And jumped up off my knees. My Christian duty was now done My soul could rest at ease..... All day long I had no time To spread a word of cheer No time to speak of Christ to friends, They'd laugh at me I'd fear. No time, no time, too much to do, That was my constant cry, No time to give to souls in need But at last the time, the time to die. I went before the Lord, I came, I stood with downcast eyes. For in his hands God! held a book; It was the book of life. God looked into his book and said "Your name I cannot find I once was going to write it down... But never found the time" Now do you have the time to pass it on? Joy I live in my own little world. But it's OK... They know me Here! If you look at what you do not have in life, you don't have anything, If you look at what you have in life, you have everything.

Happy

Am happy to be alive,
Happy as am a child of covenant,
Happy and free as the birds in the sky with no clips on my wings,
I soar on eagles wings
Am happy to be free
Am happy as I am part of the chosen few
Am happy that God has been good to me
but most especially am happy because I am me.

God Bless

Life

Wow, well was on FB on saturday being jobless as i tend to wake up on saturdays at 6 or 7am(bizarre) but on this day after clearing the dishes in the kitchen i decided to surf the internet hence got on FB. I saw someone that looked my school daughter whilst back in Naija and guess wat she was the one, called her at night gisted for hours as we had a lot to catch up and i then felt old.

Life has treated me well i must admit, sometimes i can be a bit of a loner, i like staying indoors buit see now i am dating the hubby and yet i sometimes feel like there is no spark but then maybe it is becuz of condition right now.

She was such a lovely daughter then but hey na life be that I guess.

Carnival Ride

Hmnn, well am new to this blog thingy o but boy am i excited i have internet space on the www, how nice am sure my father would be very happy with me ( me think).

Well, the weekend was really nice, apart from the rain but i slept in yesterday can u imagine, and here i was on saturday going to bed early so that io could go for the early service at 8a.m but dat no happen o, sad me, but my brother and i went to see the mummy and it was just waste of time.

Anyways i have been having men palaver since o but did i mention i was single and all the guys i keep meeting either get one probs or the other but i thought when you meet the husband it would be stress free, in fact na that one come get problem pass o.

I am just taking a day at a time whilst crying to baba God to sort us out. How come it is only women that pray sor sorting things out and not the bobos, God help us i guess this is part of the helpmate business.

Well, am happy to say the least and enjoying the dating game again although i have not rested from the last bobo i dated na im husband gan gan come show face so u can imagine the coaster ride o,
I need help, can u please shed some light on this and how can i rest from the luggages and baggaes from the old relationship.

Any suggestions.

Awww the Joy

Hmmmmn, many at times i wonder am i really in acuckoo land or in the real world, i really do not know but i wonder why i can be a one way street atimes, I guess only my father in heaven knows why