Monday 3 November 2008

The chase continues

Thanks y’all for advising me on my last blog but it looks like drama has only just started.

E and I dated for a year plus and we had been chatting even before we met and when we did, we just took off from where we were at. I got to meet the family a few months after we started dating and I thought I finally met my Mr Right. He was loving, very caring, would lay the bed, clean the house, even iron my clothes. We both loved cooking so he will sometime tell me to relax whilst he cooked and likewise but not knowing that this was a façade.

Our problems started when he moved into his own flat and his brothers were living with him. He started to cheat and I knew but no evidence, he explained to me that he was naturally a flirt and that I should not read meaning into his calls or texts. Our problem started on his birthday as that was the concrete evidence I had against him, as usual him being a guy persuaded me and said there was nothing to it just friendship.

So he travelled a lot and one of the trips he took he obviously met other girls but at this time I had got fed up and the fights got heated and was lasting for weeks. If we had a single quarrel, his family will call both here and abroad especially his parents. I must admit that I hung in there because I did not want to disappoint his parents. So he asked me one day to call his pastor back home and when I spoke to the man, he said we should fast together and he advised me to leave him. The man said that I would never know a day of peace if I was to marry him but apparently the man did not tell his folks that as they kept saying that their son was repentant of his mess.

Anyway to cut a long story short, I told him that I was breaking up with him and this guy has refused to let go, he has emailed me on a continuous basis. I warned him off and I feel there is more to it, one of his friend advised me not to give in and accept him back, I have moved on but the guy refused to let go, all I hear is how he has been to more than 5 spiritualist and they have said am his wife. It has been more than 9 months, he still begs for mercy, he emailed me this today

Laughter, I have sd sorry for chances i never even knew was given, i kept on re assuring you at that time dat all was well.
there is nofink beyond redemption.

if given another opportunity, "'its only and idiot dat wud suffer for smefink and squander dat opportunity again" the reason i asked us to meet is for you to see what i have turned into..a living ghost of ma image, i have had time to fink, time to ponder, i have had too much time in ma hands to retrace where it all went wrong, i have tried reasoning with myself that everyfink wud be ok, but each day that passes has bn a constant reminder of our times together, vivid memories flash through my eyes like am seeing it happen, the 1st time we spoke,1st time we met,1st time we kissed and the 1st time we ever made luv.

Laughter , time is not a theme when it comes to the fink of the heart. i am sorry you felt i never treated you right, but dat was not the case cos u had always been ma top priority.

i am am asking you to find another place in ur heart to luv me again like u did, i will be everyfink you want in a man i promise.
I honestly wish i cud reach into you heart and let you know exactly hw i feel...baby you mean the world to me..and i am prepared to let all go just to be wif you..laughter pls i am sorry for hw the past went..the future is wat matters gime a chance again pls.


This is what I see or get on a daily basis and this is not love. I heard a rumour that he is in debt and the reason why he desperately wants to marry me is because am the only one that could pull him out of the debt. Can u just imagine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been aggresive, i have been nice but he keeps saying you are the only one i love, how can that be?

This is the dilemma I face my people. He has been threatened with the police, i have now taken a restarining order against him but he still emails with another name and from another email address. If this was love, he would not have messed up constantly and i cannot understand why his folks cannot let go either, they should have advised him to move on and that he would meet someone new but no the geezer and his people think am the perfect wife for him.