I AM ALIVE

Hi Blogsville,

I am alive and well. I am so sorry I have not updated you guys, a lot has been happening. I have a lot of gist to catch on and to tell.

I sure was sick.

Will update over the weekend.

Am down with the Flu

Hi All,

Am sorry I haven't updated at all like Ms Afrobabe said. I am down with the Flu and am really sick.

I shall update soon.

I miss ya.

To My friends on Blogsville

To the world, love is a feeling,That dictates, destroys, then scatters,
But to me, it is a state of mind,
It reminds me that nothing else matters.
To the world, love is a fairy tale,
That lives happily Never after,
But to me,It is a single moment in time,once realizedLasts forever - and then after.
To the world, you may be just one person,Insignificant and small,
But to me,
you Are the world,
My complement, my new found friend
People that I met in blogsville I dedicate this to you.
God bless
Mwah have a lovely Christmas and looking forward to reading about you in the new year.

The chase continues

Thanks y’all for advising me on my last blog but it looks like drama has only just started.

E and I dated for a year plus and we had been chatting even before we met and when we did, we just took off from where we were at. I got to meet the family a few months after we started dating and I thought I finally met my Mr Right. He was loving, very caring, would lay the bed, clean the house, even iron my clothes. We both loved cooking so he will sometime tell me to relax whilst he cooked and likewise but not knowing that this was a façade.

Our problems started when he moved into his own flat and his brothers were living with him. He started to cheat and I knew but no evidence, he explained to me that he was naturally a flirt and that I should not read meaning into his calls or texts. Our problem started on his birthday as that was the concrete evidence I had against him, as usual him being a guy persuaded me and said there was nothing to it just friendship.

So he travelled a lot and one of the trips he took he obviously met other girls but at this time I had got fed up and the fights got heated and was lasting for weeks. If we had a single quarrel, his family will call both here and abroad especially his parents. I must admit that I hung in there because I did not want to disappoint his parents. So he asked me one day to call his pastor back home and when I spoke to the man, he said we should fast together and he advised me to leave him. The man said that I would never know a day of peace if I was to marry him but apparently the man did not tell his folks that as they kept saying that their son was repentant of his mess.

Anyway to cut a long story short, I told him that I was breaking up with him and this guy has refused to let go, he has emailed me on a continuous basis. I warned him off and I feel there is more to it, one of his friend advised me not to give in and accept him back, I have moved on but the guy refused to let go, all I hear is how he has been to more than 5 spiritualist and they have said am his wife. It has been more than 9 months, he still begs for mercy, he emailed me this today

Laughter, I have sd sorry for chances i never even knew was given, i kept on re assuring you at that time dat all was well.
there is nofink beyond redemption.

if given another opportunity, "'its only and idiot dat wud suffer for smefink and squander dat opportunity again" the reason i asked us to meet is for you to see what i have turned into..a living ghost of ma image, i have had time to fink, time to ponder, i have had too much time in ma hands to retrace where it all went wrong, i have tried reasoning with myself that everyfink wud be ok, but each day that passes has bn a constant reminder of our times together, vivid memories flash through my eyes like am seeing it happen, the 1st time we spoke,1st time we met,1st time we kissed and the 1st time we ever made luv.

Laughter , time is not a theme when it comes to the fink of the heart. i am sorry you felt i never treated you right, but dat was not the case cos u had always been ma top priority.

i am am asking you to find another place in ur heart to luv me again like u did, i will be everyfink you want in a man i promise.
I honestly wish i cud reach into you heart and let you know exactly hw i feel...baby you mean the world to me..and i am prepared to let all go just to be wif you..laughter pls i am sorry for hw the past went..the future is wat matters gime a chance again pls.


This is what I see or get on a daily basis and this is not love. I heard a rumour that he is in debt and the reason why he desperately wants to marry me is because am the only one that could pull him out of the debt. Can u just imagine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been aggresive, i have been nice but he keeps saying you are the only one i love, how can that be?

This is the dilemma I face my people. He has been threatened with the police, i have now taken a restarining order against him but he still emails with another name and from another email address. If this was love, he would not have messed up constantly and i cannot understand why his folks cannot let go either, they should have advised him to move on and that he would meet someone new but no the geezer and his people think am the perfect wife for him.

In Two Minds

Blogsville, a lot has been happening to me but I was shying away from discussing this on the web but now I think am about to go bonkers. A year plus ago I started to date a guy called E, we dated for about 13 months and out of those 13 months it was obviously sweeter and better in the beginning, around july last year, he rented a place because initially he was living with his cousin and girlfriend who later became his wife and so he moved and when he was moving, obviously I helped and assisted.

The saga then started because once he started to live alone, his freedom started and due to the fact that he lived in the north of England, I could only see him at the weekends. Then he started to two-time, three-time, quarter-time and what not but I had no concrete proof. His birthday last year was when I knew, he loves to flirt so I read no meaning to many of his phone calls but last year I knew because he left his phone at home and was so sure I was not going to go through the phone. I have come to realise that for me to have a longer life, I ignore going through a bloke’s phone because whilst am there drowning away in my misery the man would be there snoring away and he knew that but when I went through the phone and the voicemail I realise that ole boy was a proper player o. He had told the other chicks that he was going away to Dublin to see his brother that had a baby and he called the babes from the so called Dublin with private no and he had said he would spend his birthday night with her. So me I jejely put the phone back where I saw it, pretended like nothing had happened and was waiting to see how he was going to perform that trick.

Anyways to cut a long story short he was going to drop me off at home at that time, me I kunkun refused o, he was so angry but we ended up in his uncle’s house instead so that was the saga for a while o, we now started to fight non stop. He came to see my parents who did not like him, apparently they had gone to pray and they said he was not the one.

Anyways we broke up this year o around January time, he called me around my birthday time to give me gift which I stupidly collected and since then bobo has been chasing me he wants me back, his parents called non stop from 9ja saying they have gone to pray and that we are good together. I have changed my phone number, he calls me at work, turned up unexpectedly in my church and work, I have stopped going to that church, it has been more than 6months and he refused to give up. I told him I was pregnant for someone else, he said he will take the baby and raise it as his own. I don’t want to call the police but I am now so confused, his family members called me to beg on his behalf even as far as swearing on their children’s life that once we pray together whatever the problem is would go. I myself fasted and prayed and knew that he was not the will for my life.

Can anybody help me on what to do? I don’t want to get the police involved, yesterday he still called me and begged me that he would love me forever told him I am seeing somebody else, he said he would wait for me and if it does not work out with that person would I date him back. I said tohim he must be mad. Which kind hot yeye love this one be, love that was uncaring before now became hot love.

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp.

The Best Day Of My Life

Today, when I awoke, I suddenly realized that this is the best day of my life, ever! There were times when I wondered if I would make it to today; but I did! And because I did I'm going to celebrate!Today, I'm going to celebrate what an unbelievable life I have had so far: the accomplishments, the many blessings, and, yes, even the hardships because they have served to make me stronger.I will go through this day with my head held high, and a happy heart. I will marvel at God's seemingly simple gifts: the morning dew, the sun, the clouds, the trees, the flowers, the birds. Today, none of these miraculous creations will escape my notice.Today, I will share my excitement for life with other people. I'll make someone smile. I'll go out of my way to perform an unexpected act of kindness for someone I don't even know.Today, I'll give a sincere compliment to someone who seems down. I'll tell a child how special he is, and I'll tell someone I love just how deeply I care for them and how much they mean to me.Today is the day I quit worrying about what I don't have and start being grateful for all the wonderful things God has already given me.I'll remember that to worry is just a waste of time because my faith in God and his Divine Plan ensures everything will be just fine.And tonight, before I go to bed, I'll go outside and raise my eyes to the heavens. I will stand in awe at the beauty of the stars and the moon, and I will praise God for these magnificent treasures.As the day ends and I lay my head down on my pillow, I will thank the Almighty for the best day of my life. And I will sleep the sleep of a contented child, excited with expectation because know tomorrow is going to be the best day of my life, ever!

Shalom

Anger is not worth the price you pay for it

Transform it instead into positive results. Despair will only keep you stuck where you are.
Choose to exchange it for a good dose of inspiration.
Arrogance will cut you off from the world. Cast it away and replace it with generosity and enthusiasm.
Impatience only brings you mistakes and frustration. Let it go and let peaceful purpose take its place.
For every burden of your own creation, there is an alternative that will lift you up. When you feel yourself being dragged down by the attitude you have chosen, let that be a reminder to choose a more positive approach.
You are in control of the way you look at life. And the way you look at life surely and inevitably determines the way your life will be.
My piece for the day..